It's a bas ass world these days. Cops getting shot every week these days. They fear for their lives. They walk on egg shells. There's only so much that they can handle and will handle no matter how much triaining they receive. As such, their human instincts kick in and they protect themelves. If one doesn't follow directions of a cop, one's causing them to be overly cautious, which triggers (no pun intended) a different set of parameters. And if you appear at the slightest to be reaching for something, chances are great that you're going to be shot. Period. It won't matter who you are, what color you are... you'll be a dead somebody with some defined race, age, height, weight, and demeanor. Common sense. Some get this, some don't. Some are so high on drugs they can't. Some simply are too prideful to think logically. Some get shot & killed, others live to tell about. My money is on the cop every time.
Pt, in your own words stated you've skated death multiple times via LEO. If you refused directions & escalated any situation, it wasn't wise on your behalf. In fact it's down right foolish. In today's world, you'd mre likely be dead & not responding this message board.