I was an OU SAE from '83-'85

[soonerdave]

Originally posted by Jaaa:



Originally posted by soonerdave:



Originally posted by Jaaa:

Quick poll: How many of you would say everything you've ever done wrong in your life is the fault of your parents? I get tired of the blame mentality prevalent today. These kids made a choice to act the way they did. To blame it on their parents, or their school, or their culture MAY be legit, but I doubt it.



I screwed up my kids in many ways, but I certainly take pride in the fact that I have a pretty high level of confidence that neither of my kids will condone, let alone participate in such an activity. It's the parents/guardians that lay the foundation for their kid's character and moral compass.......it ain't just blind luck that kids go out an act the way they do.




There is no one more important in the life of a child than his mother and father. Period. I'll ask again, soonerdave - have you ever done anything in your life of which you are not proud? If yes, was it your parents fault?

I know where you're trying to go with it, but it's really not that simple. It's not like we're talking about a situation where, for example, a kid is growing up and in the life learning process, and really does make a decision independent of the parent. Like a kid in grade school or middle school who makes fun of or lightly torments another kid. Most of the time parents aren't going to teach that, or expose the child to that. Rather, this is a situation that involves a conscious decision made by a group of young adults to engage in a disgusting, learned chant. And that decision process in their respective minds is driven almost entirely by their character, moral compass, and values, and THOSE my friend are conceived and nurtured by the parents throughout the kids' life.

 

[Soonersincefitty]

Eh, you guys are trifling with a topic that's bigger than all of us. (and over thinking it...as per usual)

We try to instill our ever evolving values into our kids in their formative years.
What you have to factor in is peer pressure, the group your kid chooses to hang with.
Those two things well, parents are helpless to affect that crap.

Bottom line is...pray a lot and insure everything that's insurable.

This post was edited on 3/14 10:24 PM by Soonersincefitty